Identifying & dealing issues of being Lonely
Have you experienced being
Loneliness is one of the most
devastating feelings that
anyone can experience. Loneliness is a feeling that in extreme
circumstances may provoke a
person to commit suicide. Suicide attempts can be triggered by
the Christmas holidays, breakup of personal
relationship, terminal illness. or the anniversary of a death of a -
spouse, parent, child, or pet.
What is Loneliness?
What causes Loneliness?
It is possible to have lots of friends
and be surrounded with people, but it entirely possible that you have
not allowed them to become close. The result is that you feel isolated
and the feeling of being alone continues when surrounded by family
One of the major causes for someone to
is the lack of
relationships. Superficial relationships are not a substitute as
feel comfortable sharing your emotions with them.
Learning how to sharing your
emotions and secrets
with people is a positive step that helps
overcoming loneliness and it will also help you get closer to your
Another strong cause for the feelings
loneliness is the feeling that you are not welcomed to join a select
group that you aspire to join. If
you felt that people don't like you, then you will not be able
intimate relationships with them and so you will likely feel lonely
Being alone is not the same as feeling
lonely. Some individuals actually need some "down time" to decompress
from high stress careers and even family members. Family and work
obligations can be very stressful, especially if most of the burden of
organizing and preparing for the holidays defaults to you.
that can Produce
There times when we will experience
extremely lonely, yet we may not be able to verbalize what causes our
loneliness. The following a typical examples of triggers that cause us
to feel sad and prefer not to have other people around us:
- Feeling homesick caused by separation from the comfort
zone of home.
- Trouble making friends,
- Not feeling worthwhile or valued,
- Loneliness following the breakup of a relationship (dating
- Loneliness after the death of a person or pet you were very
close to (parent, sibling, spouse)
- Feeling lonely in a relationship because the significant
other is always working or socializing with friends,
- Dysfunctional family relationships,
- Empty nest syndrome after the kids have left home
- Anxiety or fear about meeting new people or being afraid to
converse with people,
- Loss of a social network and failure to reestablish a new
- Inability to form close or intimate relationships.
Some individuals may not
feel comfortable when left to their own devices and
can't bear the
thought of being alone as they feel isolated, abandoned, and adrift
without structure in their life.
Keep in mind that it is quite
normal to enjoy your time alone,
as this time alone can be very helpful in restoring your energy to deal
with the normal daily problems everyone experiences.
To overcome the feeling of loneliness,
you need to first become comfortable with sharing your
emotions and life experiences with other people.
Try not to spend most of your time
alone. If the nature of
your daily activities makes it difficult to have direct contact with
people, make a concerted efforts to plan activities to socialize on the
Reduce your loneliness by increasing
opportunities of interacting with old acquaintances and meeting new
going to public places or social events. The following
are some practices you should take to overcome loneliness:
Loneliness and Depression
Join a study group. The
time you spend alone the more the loneliness feelings will get
Ask a friend to join you for a daily walk.
You need to strive to develop emotional honesty to help in
loneliness. Try to be more engaged with your friends by sharing fears
and worries and avoid the typical small talk of superficial
Someone who is afraid to share their emotions may you have
a serious problem of low opinion of yourself (self
It is not true that expressing the
feeling of being blue or depressed
makes an individual weak. Just because you feel down doesn't mean that
you are bad any more than if you are
depressed means that you are inadequate. It is normal to have downs
that occur briefly before rebounding.
It is frequently touted to be one of the most effective
ways to overcome loneliness -
involved into a relationship. However, it is not recommended that a
person who is at a very vulnerable stage of their life should seek
someone to form a relationship to share every aspect of your life with
your partner so the
feelings of loneliness will disappear. The problem
is that you cannot control the lots of variables involved,
such as time, place, and circumstances when you would meet the perfect
person without any undisclosed emotional baggage.
For some people getting involved with some kind of a
charitable project or cause that involves team work. Involvement in
such a project obligates you
your ideas, thoughts and even your fears with others, which may be
in mitigating loneliness. You generally
to attend regular meetings in order to discuss the project's issues and
communicate your progress in accomplishing a task or assignment.
One of the important facts about loneliness is that when
you experience a problem or a
downtime, you will develop more of a dependency or
attachment to other people.
Loneliness can result in a severe depression
if no actions
were taken to resolve this condition. Advice to do something new or
never help in removing depression unless the person deals with the real
In this case, dealing with loneliness
is the only way to get
rid of the depression associated with it.
Personal empowerment techniques
involve Targeting the source(s) of your loneliness by:
Identify and targets the source of your loneliness,
Identify and describe the desired outcome,
Proposing steps that will turns your loneliness into
confidence and hope,
Listing how you will change your anxieties and fears into
Describing how you plan to transform your frustration into
- Not attempting to make drastic changes in your
positive changes will achieve a lasting transformation!
and Mental Illness Dealing with loneliness is a very delicate
Sometimes you have to sit at home and face it, but sometimes you have
to go out and try to meet people.
to Deal With Loneliness Nov. 9, 2011 ... How to
Deal With Loneliness. People feel lonely for a number of reasons, such
as not having enough friends, not knowing how to be close to anyone.
with loneliness You
are not alone as a
staggering amount of people suffers from loneliness. Loneliness is a
feeling of emptiness and can sometimes result in depression.
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