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How to handle disappointing outcomes
How Disappointment is Handled
Disappointment has as much to do with
reality as it has to do with a person's perception of the events.
Putting a disappointing event in perspective is an important step to
use the event as an opportunity to achieve something positive. For
Change Expectations to Avoid Disappointment
Some people attempt to change from being optimists to being pessimists just to avoid disappointment. This is not a solution, it is an attempt to escape confronting the underlying causes of the problem.
Dealing successfully with
a "Pre-emptive Defense" of learning how to establish a
positive way of thinking and being surrounded with a support system
which cultivates self-esteem and confidence. Reasonable and measurable
goals must be established to avoid experiencing high stress and
Many coaches and teachers try to
instill the idea of progress and pride in achieving "A Personal Best"
rather than comparison to other individuals. Unfortunately many people
in sports define success as "Winning At Any Cost!"
Disappointment can signal a serious downward spiral into depression in some individuals while others are able to quickly bounce back from their disappointment. Recognizing that dealing with disappointment is an important step for preventing depression. Preventing the establishment of false beliefs is critical prevention tool. Refer to Limiting Beliefs.
Dealing with Disappointment
The following types of personalities who commonly experience disappointment:
How to Bounce Back From Disappointment
One of the most essential attributes of a mentally tough athlete is resiliency. Triathletes experience a gamut of emotions before, during and after practice and competitive events.
PDF Disappointment Aug 08.pub The disappointment that those athletes felt must have been enormous. If disappointment is not dealt with in an appropriate way, it can lead to bitterness, resentment, doubt, and many other damaging emotions and behaviors. The way you respond to disappointment is more important than the disappointment itself.
10 Tips Sports Parents Should Know to Help Kids Get over disappointment May 17, 2010 Most kids who are average players will often experience as much disappointment as they do athletic success.
Parents/Coaches Guides - 13 Steps to Being a Winning Parent If you want your child to come out of his youth sports experience feeling a winner ... You are a vital and important part of the coach-athlete-parent team. ... The athlete wants to hear from you after a disappointing performance or loss is an expression of unconditional love, not disgust, anger and withdrawal of love and approval.
Dealing With Defeat - Coach and Athletic Director Dealing with defeat from a perspective of a coach and Athletic Director. Turn defeat into a positive learning experience, beginning with the post-game talk. ... don't waste time spewing your frustration and disappointment at your players and staff!
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associations that have a web presence with information concerning team and
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