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Talking About Puberty

Have the "Talk" with your Child
    Help prepare your child for puberty. Too much of information about sex and relationships is from TV, movies, magazines, and popular songs.

    Universal access to the Internet is fast becoming a reality so it is natural to assume that by the time they approach puberty, they may have explored internet sites to formulate ideas about sex and personal relationships. Most schools have sex education classes, but discussing the issues of puberty still is the most important responsibility for parents to insure information comes from a reliable source.

    Beginning as a toddler, kids ask lots of questions. Most of your discussions probably have started as a result of your child's inquiries.  Parents should use these opportunities to start talking to your child about the changes their bodies will go through as they grow. Don't wait for your child to come to you with questions about his or her changing body as that day may never arrive, especially if your child senses you are uncomfortable with topics dealing with sex.

    Be honest and foresight in how you answer your child's questions about puberty honestly and openly. Don't wait for your child to initiate a discussion. By the time kids are 8 years old, they should know what physical and emotional changes are associated with puberty. If that seems young, consider that some girls are wearing training bras by then and some boys' voices begin to change just a few years later.

Kids should know about puberty before they begin to experience changes in their bodies.
     It is critical that parents of girls talk about menstruation before their actually gets their first period. Girls can be frightened by the sight and location of blood if they are unaware of what is occurring. Most girls get their first period when they're 12 or 13 years old, which is about two or two and a half years after they begin puberty. However,  some girls get their periods as early as age 9 while others get it as late as age 16.

     Generally boys begin to experience puberty a little later than girls, usually around age 11 or 12. However, they may begin to develop sexually or have their first ejaculation without developing facial or pubic hair first.

    The sex education at schools are often segregated, and the girls hear primarily about menstruation and training bras while the boys hear about erections and changing voices. Educators consider it is important for boys and girls learn about the changes each other will go through. It's a good idea to review the curriculum for the sex education classes with your child. Many kids will still have questions about certain topics, especially ones they were uncomfortable able discussing in class in front of their peers.

Suggested Readings:

Talking to Your Child About Puberty  Talking to kids about puberty is an important job for parents, especially because kids often hear about sex and relationships from unreliable sources.

Understanding Puberty  Stages of Puberty; For a Boy; For a Girl; Common Puberty Concerns.

Your Preteen and Puberty  Your preteen will try new things and want even more independence. She will ... Try to start talking about puberty before your child experiences it.

Answer - Books for Parents and Their Preteens Ages 9-13  Talking to Your Kids about Sex: A Go Parents! Guide.

Talking to Kids about Puberty - KidsGrowth It is less embarrassing for both the parent and the child when the facts are printed on a page. A list of recommended books suitable for various ages of children provide great icebreakers as a starting point for discussing different topics in the books.

Puberty - Kids' Health Center -  Feb. 4, 2009 ... Just when you think you have your children figured out, they approach puberty. Learn more about what to expect when they begin to start puberty.



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The following internet links have been gleaned from personal communications
combined with information from public institutions and athletic organizations/
associations that have a web presence with information concerning team and
individual sports programs:

Adolescent Behavior

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