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Personal Sabotage  

We can be our own worst enemy
        Sabotage is easier to recognize when someone is doing it to you then when you are causing the sabotage to occur.  As the object of the sabotage, your involvement is very personal. Everyone has one or more limiting beliefs that makes it very difficult to clearly see our true selves.

       Some people sabotage themselves when it comes to money, some do it with relationships or achievement, and others have problems with achievements.

       Self-sabotage is triggered when an individual attempts to achieve more than their self-image allows them to achieve. Everyone has an opinion about themself. This determines how much success they think they can achieve.  A person's self image can be temporarily reshaped, but when they are distracted the self image returns to its original state or shape. Just as they seem to be achieving their dream they sabotage themselves in some way to return to their comfort zone of achievement.

      It is possible to eliminate self-sabotage, but it is very hard to change consciously fight against your limiting beliefs. The solution is to get in touch with your unconscious mind where you can eliminate the limiting beliefs by working on a deeper level you can replace negative, limiting beliefs with positive, affirmations.

      Reaching your unconscious mind can occur thrrough the use positive affirmations such as visualizing images of a goal or writing affirmations and mentally repeating them. Another way to accessing your unconscious mind through the use of hypnosis and self-hypnosis.

<>      Altering the levels of consciousness do not an individual to be in a trance to experience them. You just need to feel different to how you usually feel. You have been in an altered state of consciousness when are daydreaming. After achieving such a state, visualise achieving the goal. The more often practice, the quicker you will alter your state of mind and your self image. <>     

      As you improve your self-image your efforts will begin to achieve positive results. A positive self-image will cause others to view you in a different light and you will begin to make different choices in life and therefore you will get better results.

Focus on What is Working
       If you constantly talk and think about what is not working you are creating a negative atmosphere that follows you like a dark cloud. Don't waste your energy by focusing on negative things that are or may have occurred. Being positive will attract other people who are positive rather that a group that feels sorry for themselves and blames everyone else for their circumstances.

Do you Obsesses about things?
       Do you constantly are thinking and/or verbalizing about your fears?  Do you allow your emotions to  paralyze you so you are unable to take any action because of your fear of what might occur?

       The best solution is to concentrate your focus on positive things you can immediately achieve. Since we can only control our actions, don't attempt to predict the future or the put things into perspective by writing down the things you cannot change, the things and behaviors of other people. To put things into perspective, make a list of the things you cannot change and the things you would like to change. Put the list away and check it in a few weeks to discover what actually occurred.

Don't Compare yourself to others.
       You only set yourself up to feel poorly if you constantly compare yourself to others.  The comparison will rarely motivate us to do more or be better. Usually it makes us feel terrible and we’ll never be good enough.

       Make a list of five qualities you like best in other people, Make another list of qualities you would change in others. Write a short composition about what you value most in your life. Now make a list of adjectives that apply to you. Always use positive adjectives when you thinking of ways to describe yourself.

Start Everyday with a Positive Attitude
Starting the day off with a positive "good morning" and a smile. Don't invent an excuse to call in sick and stay in bed. Hug your dog or cat, they will sense something is wrong because of your body language. Don't forget they have needs and get up to feed them, change the cat litter or walk the dog. They are your responsibility and before you know it you will feel better so you can tackle the day. one task at a time!

<> Recommended Reading:

Psychological Problems and Solutions in Sport

Managing Student-Athletes' Mental Health Issues A student-athlete’s “mental health” might be viewed as secondaryto physical health; however, it is every bit as important. It makes little sense to try to separate the “mind” and “body.” One affects the other. Medical problems often have psychological or emotional consequences. Psychological problems (e.g., eating disorders,
substance-related problems, etc.) typically have medical consequences. Some signs and symptoms of possible mental health problems.

Integrating sport psychology and sports counseling Up to 15 percent of American athletes suffer from psychosocial problems. Clinicians are searching for solutions to problems -   sport psychologists concentrate on performance enhancement and mental skills training. Sports counselors focus on the athlete's psychoemotional difficulties and development as an individual.

Although the disciplines of sport psychology and sports counseling have traditionally been distinct, the integration of these areas is necessary for the effective integrated sport psychology/sports counseling emphasis.

Psychological skills training myths Most athletes' psychological needs can be addressed by educational sport psychology ... Myth 3: PST Provides “Quick Fix” Solutions. Many people mistakenly think that sport psychology offers a quick fix to psychological problems.

Competition stress in sport performers  Examination of the performance and organizational stressors encountered by elite and non-elite athletes within the competition environment.

Importance of Youth Involvement in Sports  Participation in competitive team sports at an early age gives children an opportunity to understand the healthy aspects of competition in a friendly environment.

Benefits of Competitive Sports Not Always Clear-cut   Oct. 5, 2011  The Athlete's Sports Experience: Making A Difference and comprehensive developmental nature of the competitive sports environment.

Physical Education & Sports Policy for Schools   The Physical Education and Sports Program's learning environment suggests competitive sport should contribute to the health and well being of the student.

PDF STAY AND PLAY The rules in non-competitive sport can be changed to suit the participants and environment to ensure everyone can 'play' and that no one is excluded.


  • Coaches' Corner: Making Youth Sports Safe and Enjoyable   Many youngsters enter organized sports programs before age 6, and ... playing techniques can only be learned in a supervised sports environment, ... Competitive sports may increase the potential for psychological harm to certain youngsters.
  • Anxiety In Sports  May 6, 2010 ... Anxiety in sport is most common in competitive sports environments and could also be termed competitive stress.
  • PDF Youth Sports: Innocence Lost   In a competitive sport environment the rules are guarded by officials and the important decisions are made by the coaches.


The following internet links have been gleaned from personal communications
and combined
with information from public institutions, plus athletic organizations/ associations that have a web presence with concerning team and individual sports programs:

Flow/Peak Performance
Focus & Concentration
Goals and Objectives
Goal Setting
Personal Sabotage
Self Fulfilling Prophecy

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