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Character Traits
      Character traits can be either positive or negative. A positive set of principles can guidance to live our lives. Negative traits can make it difficulty to interact with others, even family members. 

      From your personal experience, would you describe the following behaviors as positive, negative, or no opinion?  The Character Traits List is just an overview of the many attributes that an individual may display. There are some characteristics that are inherent and difficult to change, while there are some that are developed over the years and can be modeled for the better.  

  
Character Traits List
A-Z Positive Character Traits Negative Character Traits
A Affectionate Aggressive
Affable Anger
Ambitious Afraid
Active Arrogant
B Brave Boorish
Brilliant Bossy
Brainy Babyish
Bright Bad
C Courageous Caustic
Calm Conniving
Capable Careless
Charismatic Childish
D Daring Dangerous
Decisive Dishonest
Dependable Disrespectful
Diligent Disparaging
E Effervescent Embarrassing
Eloquent Evil
Energetic Exacting
F Facetious Foolish
Faithful Fearful
Funny Finicky
Frank Fidgety
G Generous Gloomy
Giving Glum
Gentle Garrulous
Gregarious Greedy
H Happy Harsh
Helpful Haughty
Honest Hateful
Humorous Harried
I Intelligent Insensitive
Imaginative Ignorant
Immaculate Ill-bred
Impartial Immature
J Jovial Jealous
K Kind Killjoy
L Loving Lackadaisical
Lively Lazy
Logical Languid
Loyal Loner
M Meticulous Malicious
Mature Mean
Mysterious Moody
N Nice Naive
Neat Naughty
O Open minded Obnoxious
Obedient Outspoken
Optimistic Opinionated
P Peaceful Picky
Polite Pessimistic
Precise Pompous
Positive Petulant
Q Quick Quarrelsome
Quiet Quixotic
R Rational Rash
Refined Rambunctious
Responsible Restless
Reliable Rude
S Sensible Selfish
Satisfied Scornful
Serene Shifty
Sensitive Severe
T Tolerant Thoughtless
Tenacious Timid
Tasteful Taciturn
Thoughtful Touchy
U Useful Uncommunicative
Unpretentious Uncouth
Unselfish Unscrupulous
V Versatile Vulgar
Vivacious Vixenish
W Wise Weak
Witty Whimsical
Warm Wicked

Source - Buzz.Com

Enhancing Prospects of forming Long Lasting Relationships
      It is possible to change your character traits after you determine that others see you in a negative light. Changing your personality by improving your image. The following is a partial list of ideas:

  • Talk Less, Listen More  -  it is important to develop the habit of listening more and talking less. Let others do the talking and listening to them without perfunctory nodding of your head.

  • Cease being the Class Clown  -  People love those who are fun to be around. However, you don't always want to be the life of the party or people will not take you serious when you want to make a point.

  • Become more Extroverted  -  Get out and meet people outside your comfort zone improves your chances of meeting someone new who shares your values.Expand your aware of the world - Keep up on current affairs provides a different perspective that will help to define you and how you relate to the rest of humanity.

  • Don't attempt to constantly Impress others - Very few people will be impressed by your exploits and exaggerations of various parts of your life.

  • Be Supportive - Say a kind word to a perfect stranger and send a quick note to let colleague how much you appreciate them. Taking the time to offer encouragement and support costs very little, but can be a very rewarding experience.

  • Change your Communication Style -  Effective communication is very important in our inform- ation intensive world. How you present yourself through verbal communication can have an major impact on your career and accomplishments.   

What is your Moral or Ethical Code?
      Moral and ethical codes vary depending on a persons religious beliefs and country of origin. It is much easier to form long lasting bonds with other people if you share moral and ethical beliefs. It is even more important if you actually live by these principles. The following are provided for illustrative purposes:

  • Do you consider stealing to be reprehensible?
  • Have you ever physically and/or mentally abuse others?
  • Do you use abusive or overly sophisticated language to intimate others?
  • Do you engage in power plays with the groups you associate with?
  • Have you cheated on a test?
  • Does your ethical code allow you to entered false information on your income tax or a school/job application?
  • Does your conscious allow you to betray the confidences of a family member, coworker, close friend, significant other?
  • Are you addicted to drugs, alcohol, nicotine, etc.
  • Do you frequently ignore or break laws that you consider are irrelevant such as driving under the influence, texting or using cell phone while driving, driving without care insurance or a legal driver's license?
  • Do you have deep seated fears?
  • Are you -
    • Obsessive?
    • Compulsive?
    • Constantly flirt?
    • Gossip?
         If you have difficulty in empathizing with other people and their struggles. You may need to consult a professional therapist to delve into your inner thoughts in order to begin to understand the positive and negative traits that are associated with your character traits.

Responses
        Some individuals unconsciously have behaviors (idiosyncrasies) are annoying to a point others avoid the "offending" individual.  Sometimes people display a wide variety of mannerisms when they are nervous, happy, scared, bored, or angry. A few examples are provided to illustrate annoying mannerisms:
  • Tapping a foot or "drumming" with fingers.
  • Snapping fingers or cracking knuckles.
  • Biting fingernails
  • Greeting everyone with a "bear" hug or "bone crushing" handshake.
  • Constant tossing of the head to rearrange their hair.
  • Running fingers through hair.
  • Blowing breath out through the mouth in exasperation
  • Loud, audible sighs
       Positive relationships typically display friendship, collaboration, sharing of information, or membership in a group. In most relationships there is a potential for negative traits to be displayed. Most lasting interactions are friendly, but others are antagonistic or hostile; interactions between people or groups are regularly beset by controversy, disagreement, and sometimes outright conflict.

      An important question to resolve is "Is it possible, or even desirable, to accept or tolerate a mix of positive and negative interactions in a relationship?" Does it matter if the relationship is temporary or long term?  If the relationship is in a marriage or with a blood relative, does this change how you handle and resolve conflicts?

Recommended Reading:

PDF  Chapter 5 Positive and Negative Relationships Positive and Negative Relationships. From the book Networks, Crowds, and Markets: Reasoning about a Highly Connected World. By David Easley and Jon Kleinberg. Cambridge University Press, 2010.

Discerning Positive Character Traits in Negative Behavior  Download the Discerning Positive Character Traits in Negative Behavior worksheet addendum to the book I Want What She's Got.

What Is Character?  It is those character qualities, those character traits, that determine a person's ... Character development is essential to the ongoing success of our society.
 
Character Education - Youth Development (CA Dept of Education)  Aug. 31, 2011  "Effective schools seek to develop and reinforce character traits, such as caring, citizenship, fairness, respect, responsibility, etc..

Process of Socialization: Personality Development    July 4, 2006  Some hereditary factors that contribute to personality development do so ... We often share personality traits with others, especially members of close family, religious groups, etc..
 
Character Traits  People have unique attributes called traits. Site provides a list of character traits.

Type Development - Personality Pathways  An Introduction to the dynamics of personality development using MBTI, ... The penchant of conventional psychology to identify personality traits.

Catalog - Character Education & Emotional Intelligence  How do you develop these valued character traits? At this web site, you will find hundreds of questions, quotations, and dilemmas to explore.

Personal Value System. Using these values as a guide for how you conduct yourself. They can help you develop solid friendships, a good career and a foundation of good reputation and integrity.

References:  

Drawing the Line Between Your Business and Personal life   Nov. 28, 2011 ... You are here: Home / Balancing home/office Life / Drawing the Line Between Your Business and Personal Relationships.

Way to Strengthen Your Business and Personal Relationships Jan. 1, 2012 ... You have three simple ways that we could apply in your own personal relationships to your business ones.

Similarities Between Business and Personal Relationships Tweet TweetShareHere's another excellent guest post from David Black of the Social Masters site.

Resources:
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