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What is rejection sensitivity?
Do you sometimes become really upset by negative comments directed towards you? Are there certain situations that cause critical comments to affect you more than others?
Many people don't care much about the feelings of others. This insensitivity leads them to inflict harsh criticism, and frequently undeserved negativity when the intention of the person who delivers the criticism was well intended.
Negative criticism and rejection are commonly experienced in school, on the job, in the pursuit of your career, in social activities, and in family relationships etc.
If negative criticism and rejection are unavoidable in all stages of life from childhood through retirement. It helps to overcome the sensitivity of dealing with such situations!
Are you a quiet, shy, and intensely private person? Have you tried to be strong, assertive person who has many friends and is considered social, but it never seems to work? Deep inside yourself a voice says that you are the only one responsible and only you can initiate the changes. Sadly too many individuals actually make any changes because they seem to lack the capacity, desire, and persistence to reinvent them self.
What causes rejection sensitivity?
Rejection sensitivity is a psychological condition characterized by over sensitivity
to rejection. Typically this condition appears in people who display various
neurotic conditions like borderline personality disorder. It should not be trivialized
as it can be extremely debilitating for people who suffer from it.
To overcome rejection sensitivity you first need to know what causes it. Causes of rejection sensitivity include:
The following suggestions offer possible solutions of what you can do:
Follow these suggestions and
you will become much less
rejections because you have faced your problems and eliminated or
Downey, G., Mougios, V., Ayduk, O., London, B., & Shoda, Yuichi (2004). Rejection sensitivity and the defensive motivational system: Insights from the startle response to rejection cues. Psychological Science, 15 (10) 668-673.
Mendoza-Denton, R., Downey, G., Purdie, V., Davis, A., & Pietrzak, J. (2002). Sensitivity to status-based rejection: Implications for African American students college experience. Journal of Personality & Social Psychology, 83, 896-918.
Downey, G., & Feldman, S.I. (1996). Implications of Rejection Sensitivity for Intimate Relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 70, 1327-1343.
The Highly Sensitive Person April 13, 2010 Elaine Aron is the author of The Highly Sensitive Person and The Highly Sensitive Child, as well as The Highly Sensitive Person Workbook.References:
Jim Hallowes' Traits of highly sensitive people Insights into how to successfully navigate the unique situations and challenges that arise for people with the trait of high sensitivity and the people in their lives.
Rejection Sensitivity, Irrational Jealousy, and Impact on Oct. 18, 2011 ... Free psychological article: Rejection Sensitivity, Irrational Jealousy, and ... " Individuals who are rejection-sensitive are more likely to perceive rejection where none exists.
Transforming Rejection Sensitivity Dec. 1, 2009 ... Our culture is becoming more rejection-sensitive, writes Carlin Flora in Psychology Today.
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