San Diego Figure Skating Communications
and its effect on us
Not placing first is not the
same as being rejected
However, if the spectators feel that
the athlete(s) is NOT
playing well and committing careless errors, they will quickly express
displeasure. In some sports such as football, basket ball, soccer, and
ice hockey, spectators are unusually partisan and can be very quick to
an error or perceived poor performance by an athlete or team.
There may be a point in which a team or player's emotions are quickly changed from positive to negative. This is especially noticeable in team sports with the emotional advantage changing because a major error, fumble, or interception, missed scoring opportunity, etc.
Some people describe themselves with labels such as a "loser" or "failure" so it should not come as a shock when they slip into a serious mental depression requiring professional medical counseling.Self worth should never be determined solely by the opinion of others!
Society sends a message to our children that being a good boy or girl will cause people to treat them as being worthy, even deserving of respect while inferring that people will automatically dislike us if we are considered worthless.
We should learn not to measure our
solely on how others accept us as this allows them be in
control of our moods and actions.
Depression and Rejection
Depression is frequently associated with feelings of rejection. A MAJOR reason an individual may become depressed after experiencing rejection is they fail to take actions to neutralize the effect of the rejection.
Burying feelings of rejection only serves to suppress them deeply into the subconscious mind. Ignoring problems only allows them to accumulate and eventually they become the primary source for depression. Some people face problems as soon as they encounter them while others When they do so their subconscious minds usually responds back with depression.
Coaches usually subscribe to the adage "If
you fall off a horse, get back on immediately"!
Deal with rejection by documenting your strengths and weaknesses. You must first learn to know yourself if you are to reject false images of yourself that will only limit your potential.
By providing alternative reasons for the
rejection then you won't feel bad at all after the
Rejection can be caused because of:
People may have different reasons to dislike or even reject you for reasons unrelated to your worth. Dealing with rejection requires that you understand that your self worth can not be measured by the opinions of others.
Rejection by someone does not devalue your self
attempt to initiate changes just to please others or you will lose your
The following internet links have been gleaned from personal communications
combined with information from public institutions and athletic organizations/
associations that have a web presence with information concerning team and
individual sports programs:
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