Cognitive and Behaviorist Studies
San Diego Figure Skating Communications
Positive Learning Activities
As children we frequently had imaginary friends and real life heroes based on movies, TV, and our parents. We role played the parts of cowboys, indians, astronauts, Doctors, nurses, fire fighters, police, sports stars, actors, actresses, president, soldiers, sailors, fighter pilots, celebrities, etc.
Many different factors play a role in how we make major decisions that affect our life and career choice. Sometimes we actually grew up and became to be like one of our heroes. Sometimes our heroes had super human powers - like flying, X-Ray vision, and strength. Western movies had cowboys and lawmen whose guns never seemed to require reloading and the bad guys couldn't hit the broad side of a barn, It was easy to tell the good guys from the evil law breakers because the bad guys always wore black hats, the good guys wore white hats.
All of the Saturday afternoon movie action shorts ended with cliff hangers story lines to motivate you to come back the next Saturday to see how the next episode would resolve the dangerous situation the hero was left in. In western feature length movies, Roy Rogers and Gene Autry (the singing cowboys) sang songs, fought the bad guys, and after winning, they rode off into the sunset at the end of each movie.
Some time in our life, we eventually confront the reality that there can be a considerable difference between our perceptions of ourselves and how others view us. However, it is possible to accomplish a partial to a total behavioral makeover of our image by undertaking to:
Self-esteem is the composite of our beliefs or feelings that we use to construct an image of ourselves, These "self-perceptions" are representative of how we define ourselves based on environmental influences that serve as our motivations, attitudes, and behaviors that are reflected in our display of emotions.
The essences of self-esteem starts very early in life. As a child learning to walk, parents provide encouragement that serves as the motivation to try, fall down, try again, fall again, and until success is finally achieved. This pattern provides a blueprint for attempting and learning other skills, in addition to establishing an image of their capability for success. The interactions with other kids and adults is a key for helping children to form accurate, healthy self-perceptions.
A child who is happy with
their achievement experience low self-esteem if they do not feel loved.
Conversely, a child who feels loved, but is hesitant about their
abilities can feel good about themselves if sufficient positive
is provided for their efforts. Healthy self-esteem is a result of
obtaining the right balance of effort and achieving success with
understanding when the task may not be the right "fit" for the child's
Situations that cause many children to "freak out". The following is a short list of frequent situations that trigger uncertainty in many families:
A healthy self-esteem can provide a form of "bullet proof vest" as a defense against the challenges of the world. Children and adults who feel good about themselves tend to be better equipped to handle conflicts and negative pressures. Someone who is grounded in what is real and generally optimistic has an attitude to confront most situations and achieve a resolution that allows them to get on with their life.
Individuals with low
self-esteem develop major anxieties and are extremely frustrated when
confronted with even minor challenges. Because they think poorly of
themselves, they have a hard time being positive about finding
solutions to problems. It is common for them to express
self-critical thoughts like "I'm no good" or "I can't do anything
right." Some individuals use passivity as a means of handling
unpleasant situations. Faced with a series of challenges, their
immediate response is "I can't" and become withdrawn, or depressed.
self-confidence/self-esteem can be as even small achievements. Most
insecure people sense that words of encouragement from mom and dad are
because they love them; however, insensitive/ negative comments will be
assumed to be truthful. It takes practice in advance to formulate
comments that will encourage, rather than damage a person's self-image
after a disappointing performance in an athletic even or a low grade in
Even children have their
share of daily things
that don't go
smoothly. When their frustrations and disappointments accumulate, they
become worried/stressed. Differences in personality and temperament can
cause some to worry more than others.
Develop Good Lines of
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combined with information from public institutions and athletic organizations/
associations that have a web presence with information concerning team and
individual sports programs:
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