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Parent - Teen Relationships

Family Dynamics
      There are many ways that parents try to handle the changes that occur as their children enter into transition into becoming a preteen, teenage, and young adult.  Some are successful and some are not.

       Problems or lack there of prior to children becoming a teenage can provide a hint of what is ahead. Being prepared is always a good strategy. The best advice is to develop a trusting relationship with children as they are growing up.

      The relationships between parents, teens, and other siblings does not have to be filled with conflicts; however, everyone must put their best effort to solve the conflicts. They will not solve themselves by not acknowledging that problems exist.

      When any individual is disrespectful, obnoxious, or even abusive it is natural for the target of the behavior to feel frustrated and exhausted from the constant conflict! Attempts to avoid saying something that will set the individual off is not a permanent solution.

      Occasionally every adult and child can have a bad day and say things they would like to take back. Unfornately there are no "do overs" in real life, Sometimes a really bad decision is made that may cause physical injury or worse and a crime is committed. It is possible to have unconditional love and disaprove of the actions a person has taken.

      Before things get out of control, lines of communication and trust should be established. The following topics will provide perspective to communications.

      Parents and teens need to:

  1. Accept that changes are occurring.
  2. Believe that your relationships with each other can be positive
  3. Understand that the bonds are for a lifetime
  4. It is acceptable to indicate your love is unconditional, but some decisions and behavior are not acceptable.
  5. Be willing to seek professional family counseling

        Here are some ideas that might help:

        If these self help ideas do not succeed, professional counseling is advised so the problems do not escalate.

References:

Parent - Teen Conflict Do you feel lost with your teenager? You wonder how the baby you once held in your arms wnet so far away. Do not give up, there is hope!

Conflict Between Parents and Teens– It's Normal! challenge in It seems conflict is a daily parentingteen/parent relationships. Sometimes it feels as if conflict happens overnight.

Five Communication Tips for Dealing with Parent-Teen Conflict Oct. 12, 2006 ... Communication can be a challenge for parents and kids at any age - but for parents of teenagers, things can really fall apart.

Parent – Teen Conflict, Managing it Constructively  Parent – Teen Conflict, Managing it Constructively” deals with managing the conflict inherent in parent – teen relationships.

Parent & Teenager Conflict  May 4, 2011 ... Parent & Teenager Conflict. The teenage years can be difficult for a parent to deal with. Hormonal changes and a teenager's tendency to push the levels can be extremely difficult for parents to manage.

Parent & Teen Conflict: Choosing How to Respond One of a teenager's primary functions in life is to help parents and carers discover limits of their patience, or more particularly what happens when those limits are exceeded.

A Parent's Guide to Surviving the Teen Years Can be a period of conflict between parent and child, the teen years are also a time to help kids grow into the distinct individuals.

Resources:

The following internet links have been gleaned from personal communications
combined with information from public institutions and athletic organizations/
associations that have a web presence with information concerning team and
individual sports programs:

Program Development
Athlete Development
Skill Development
How We Learn
Stages of Learning
Parent-Teen Relationships
Youth Development
Stages of Skill Development
Stages of Figure Skating Skill Development
Long Term Athlete Development Framework
Techniques of Sports Skills
Biomechanics
Principles of Motor Skill Mechanics
Newton's Laws of Motion
Athlete Training Principles
Being Successful in Sports
Age Appropriate Sports Training
Effect of Learning Environment
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