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 Jealousy -
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What is Jealousy?
      Jealous is a fear based emotion rooted in the insecurity of the individual. Jealousy is a negative and extremely hurtful emotion that detracts from and destroys any relationship that is based on mutual respect and love.

Situations where you may experience feelings of jealousy

     You may get jealous in any of the following situations if:
  • Someone flirts with your girl/boy friend.
  • Someone achieves something that you have always wanted, but failed to achieve.
  • Someone you dislike becomes successful.
  • Someone manages obtains success, but in your opinion he/she doesn't deserve it.
What are the causes behind jealousy?
     Like most emotions, they comes from within.  A big part of the problem lies within you and not with the person towards which you are directing your jealousy.

    The following are possible root causes that cause jealousy:

  • Lack of self confidence: The main cause for feelings of jealousy are your doubts about your abilities or skills. If you are one hundred percent sure of yourself you would have never suffer from any feelings of jealousy.
  • Poor self image : A poor self image is another cause of jealousy. If you think you look ugly then it is very likely that you would be experiencing feelings of jealousy whenever you meet someone who you think is better looking than you.
  • Fear : One of the root causes behind feeling jealous is being afraid. This fear can be caused by a fear of ending up alone, a fear of being rejected or a fear of losing your partner.
  • Insecurity: Feelings of insecurity are the result of the two previously mentioned causes. A poor self image and lack of self confidence can result in making your feeling insecure about a relationship and this is  enough to become a strong reason causing jealously.
The intensity of jealousy differs according to the situation
     If you hate someone then more probably you will feel envious of him/her because of the success in achieving something you coveted.

     The degree of the jealousy can vary in intensity depending on your personal feelings for that individual. If you really care about someone you might not feel jealousy for his/her success.

Jealousy and Private Space
       With the increasing use of technology, some individuals now use the internet to vent their feelings in very permanent and hateful ways that can never be removed from cyberspace. 

       Stalking, sexing, and bullying via the internet facebook, email, and text messages, has become so common among younger people, that schools and universities have established a code of conduct for their students. 

       Abusive postings and hacking into a person's private internet space are an unpardonable mistake and can be prosecuted as criminal offense. Conviction can cause serious problems to enroll in colleges and for being hired by employers.

Jealousy; Friend or Foe
      Jealousy makes you feel bad, ruins your relationships, and in extreme cases becomes hatred so why would anyone allow themselves to display such an emotion?

      A person with feelings of jealousy tends to start fights with others and attempts to transfer the blame to external factors instead of accepting responsibility and fixing the problems they have caused.

      It requires considerable effort for some people to suppress their extremely jealousy behavior. Such a condition generally requires professional intervention and counseling.

Recommended Reading:
  • 9 Ways to Overcome Jealousy  Nov. 19, 2007 ... Not only is the feeling of jealousy not conducive for relationship building and effective communication, but it just doesn't make us feel very good about ourselves.
  • Jealousy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia  Jealousy is a second emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something very important to us.
  • Jealousy Oct. 22, 2000 ... Feelings of jealousy always appear to stem from one's sense that something about their life is not secure, e.g., is uncertain or in danger.
  • Managing Jealousy  For every jealous feeling there is an emotion behind the jealousy that is much more significant than the jealousy itself. Behind jealousy there is an unmet need.
  • What is Jealousy, and How to Overcome Jealousy Jan. 29, 2009 ... Certainly, jealousy is nothing but the outcome of comparison. It is indeed a cunning strategy devised by every society to control individuals for the purpose of exploitation and to destroy integrity.

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