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Forming & Maintaining
Healthy Relationships

What is a healthy relationship?
When discussing relationships we generally are thinking in terms of a sexual component and/or romance between two individuals. However, we also form relationships due to marriage (family) and close ties with childhood and school friends, plus the many people we interact with in our careers or social circles that are described as non physical "Platonic" exchanges of the mind, soul, and spiritual things.

         Some relationships are temporarily separated by distance and some exist in the community where we reside. Of course the degree of interaction varies greatly between individuals. Family relationships involve birth and marriage so they are more or less permanent, but others are transitory caused by drifting apart as we age and our interests change.

        Most people form relationships, but they may not stand the test of time. Some relationships involve practical matters that are not involved with love and have a potential for a lifelong romance. Unhealthy relationships usually quickly end. Some endings are disastrous.

        A healthy relationship needs to have both partners bring positive attributes to complete and strengthen the partnership. Some relationships are formed based on dominate and subordinate traits of each partner that completes and mutually satisfies the needs of both individuals.

       Everyday people attempt to start new relationships because of their intense desire to compensate for their weaknesses, inability to deal with a past unfinished problems of previous relationships, and the anticipation that the grass is always greener in other pastures. 

What makes a relationship long lasting?
       A relationship that is based on tolerance tends to overlook the faults of others in return for the strengths they bring to the relationship.  There can be serious problems that surface as time passes. Initially these are not a deal breaker at the start of the relationship, but these conflicts can become unhealthy, even toxic after the infatuation wears off.

       Sometimes a partner becomes a control freak who wants the other to be submissive to their every whim. This behavior is usually accompanied by the fear of losing their partners exclusive attention.

       Sometimes a child is doomed to repeat the pattern of interaction by and between their parents.  Physical and mental abuse may be associated with drug, alcohol, and nicotine abuse by one or both parents.

       Controlling behavior may take many forms including temper tantrums with shouting, screaming, and throwing or destroying items of value to the other partner, These are all popular tools people use to maintain control of others in their relationships. Dishonesty, untruthfulness, and being unfaithful are forms of dysfunction behavior that cause a relationship to dissolve.

Developing a healthy relationship with a partner, associate, or friend
       It is important to develop a solid understanding of what really is required to achieve a long last successful relationship. Shared mutual goals and aspirations must form the basis of understanding what motivates you and your partner. This information will also enable both of you to get rid of fears and other weaknesses that can make it difficult to have a lasting and healthy relationship.

      Honesty is the keystone of building a long-lasting relationship. Dishonesty can ruin any relationship in a very short period of time.  It is better to reveal the truth sooner rather than later, The lack of trust can cause an otherwise successful relationship to be terminated.  

      Every potential partner should educate them self of the essential qualities that will be needed to achieve a properly functioning relationship. There are many false ideas that are promulgated by individuals within some sports that create stereotypical expectations that are responsible for dissatisfaction and unhealthy relationships. Both partners must not bring unrealistic expectations to a partnership as this guarantees dissatisfaction and eventually causing the partnership to dissolve.

      The same type of relationships associated with a pair of skaters is multiplied many times for teams of synchronized team ice skaters and swimmers, hockey players, and relay events in swimming, endurance running, etc.

Recommended Reading:

Forming Healthy Relationships  The Healthy Relationship Part of the healing process includes bringing our old issues from childhood to awareness.

Eight Contrasts Between Unhealthy and Healthy Relationships  There are many contrasts between healthy and unhealthy relationships. ... either in the form of other relationships or in the form of dysfunctional and addictive behavior.

Top 10 Challenges Couples Face in Forming and Sustaining Healthy  Here are 10 obstacles couples encounter in developing and maintaining healthy long-term relationships.

Healthy Relationships - Truth About Deception  Information on building and maintaining a healthy romantic relationship or marriage. ... So, what does it take to maintain a healthy relationship?

How to Create and Maintain Healthy Relationships  July 19, 2008 ... As stated before, it takes two to form a healthy relationship, so while you should pamper yourself, take the time to pamper the other person.

Attachment: The First Core Strength  Attachment is the capacity to form and maintain healthy emotional relationships. An attachment bond has unique properties.


Introduction - Modifying Skills and Habits


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Healthy Relationships

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