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Healing Emotional Wounds

Some Emotional Wounds Never Heal
       Why would a person allow themselves to suffer continuously for years and years without confronting the problem that is the cause of their suffering? While some people accept living with their emotional wounds for the rest of their lives, other individuals are able to get over them and move on.

       The subconscious brain is designed to process the beliefs your conscious mind accepts as true. 
When an individual experiences a rejection and they have a self-image problem relegating to their attractiveness, they automatically believe they have been rejected because of his/her looks resulting in the emotional wound continuing to persist as long as the basic image problem exists.

       Most emotional wounds do not heal if the person continues to allow his/her wounded ego to be damaged by incorrect, misleading, or erroneous information that allows the wound to grow and become even more of a problem.

The Path to Healing Emotional Wounds
       The best way to heal your emotional wounds is by changing your beliefs.  By changing your conscious beliefs, your subconscious mind will accept your new beliefs as true, you will gradually recover from your emotional wounds. Do not expect miracles to occur over night as the problem generally took months or years to develop.

       You should not view seeking help from a professional counselor as a sign of weakness. Instead, this decision is logical and quite brave as it can provide an objective input from someone who is not emotionally invested in your problem.

        Don't fall into a trap of self-help books and attempt to treat yourself. Emotional wounds require looking at those around you that are mostly part of the problem. Colleges have counselors on staff that provide free services to students. Take advantage of the opportunity!

Changing a Belief System
       Developing a positive approach involves using powerful positive thinking techniques such as visualizations and positive affirmations. If you can master the necessary skills, you can apply them successfully to most situations. The use of these techniques allow you to develop personal power, gain a competitive edge, transform your life, your health, and renew your joy and passion for living.

      These techniques start by making conscious decisions to act in a positive way. However, with practice they will become automatic and instinctive responses originating from your subconscious.

      If your conscious beliefs are not in agreement with your subconscious beliefs, your mind will regard them as an attempt of self deception. To prevent these conflicts in beliefs, you need to take positive steps, as demonstrated through your actions, to prove to yourself what is the truth and what is a negative belief so the emotional wound can heal.

What is an Affirmation?
      Every thought you think and every word you say is an affirmation. We are constantly subconsciously affirming our words and thoughts.  Starting childhood, when our beliefs initially begin to form and continuing to develop as we grow older. Not all beliefs are valid and widely supported. Because of environmental influences, some beliefs actually are dysfunctional and may sabotaging your efforts to  achieve your goals.

       Beliefs are based on invalid information and inappropriate impressions that we were exposed to as children. As we become adults we are exposed to new ideas and different points of view that may challenge our beliefs through social activities, study groups, dorms, academic clubs, or chance encounters with individuals at parties. These types of discussions are generally a new experience associated with attending college and establishing independence from parents.

      There may be considerable conflict with parents and siblings because of your questioning the foundation of core beliefs on which they will resist what they consider as radical or revolutionary and caused by the exposure to the skewed perspective of the college professors. As the beliefs of parents are generally strongly held, it is best not to create situations discussing topics like politics, religion, human sexuality, etc. that are unlikely to result in changing their beliefs and can trigger some nasty confrontations that will not have a pleasant ending.

Recommended Reading:

Inner Healing 101: Healing emotional wounds  Powerful keys to receive healing from emotional wounds.

Steps To Receive Emotional Healing  The first step is to Acknowledge the need for healing. For us to receive the healing of emotional wounds, we must first acknowledge that we are hurting!

Healing Emotional Wounds   When we develop a wound we tend to become over sensitive to factors that didn't use to bother us before. The same goes for emotional wounds:
The Gentle Wind Project: Healing Emotional Wounds  The Gentle Wind Project: Healing Emotional Wounds. by Mary E. Miller, MSW. There are untold ways in which human beings can incur mental and emotional harm.

Emotional Self-Healing  The Power Of Focusing Can Help The Self Healing Process.


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