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Developing Self-Confidence

Is there a difference between self-esteem and self-confidence?
     Self-esteem is defined as positive self-imaging that must be established proactively by each individual. Self-esteem does not occur passively. Individuals who expect external factors to produce an objective and realistic foundation for their self-esteem will most likely be disappointed.

     Self-confidence is an attitude individuals hold about their positive view of themselves and their situations. Self-confident people place extraordinary trust their own abilities. They have a general sense of being in control in their lives, and believe that they will be able to do what they expect to accomplish. Sometimes they reach a level of  being over confidence. Self-confident people must learn to establish realistic expectations so that if some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves.

     When an individuals fails to take action and perform something that requires their attention, they lose trust in themselves and abilities. The lose in faith in oneself can continue in a downward spiral causing the failure to fulfill more commitments.

     Performing even a small the task will help by building positive energy and momentum, which then makes other tasks easier to accomplish.  With the confident developed, an individual will be able to accept more responsibility and expand their abilities as they succeed with the new responsibilities.

     Steps to increase self-esteem include:
  •  Starting Small -  Start with something that will be easy to do immediately. Small successes build momentum to gain more confidence in our abilities. Completed small tasks form the foundation for more confidence.
  • Creating a Compelling Image of Yourself - Use the power of your imagination is a very powerful tool in creating a positive image of the confident and self-assured person you aspire to become. Write a description of this person and all of the associated attributes. Visualize yourself as this person every evening before going to bed and again in the morning as you start your day.
  • Doing Something You Are Good At - The repetition of doing things that you are good at reinforces the belief in your abilities and strengths.
  • Visualizing and Implementing - self-esteem goals requires skill-sets that gets better with practice and repetition. The more often we proactively do things that are uncomfortable, the less problematic these situations will seem, and eventually become natural.
  • Creating a Plan - Establishing a goal is just the first part of the solution. Creating a plan whose primary objective is to fulfill the stated goal gives clarity for the individual to put into action. A primary reason people don't achieve their stated goal is that slack off because they don't have a step by step plan to achieve their goals. They are not clear of what the first step is and what should take place in an orderly succession afterwards.
  • Setting Goals - that are unambiguous and actionable. It is vital to establish a clear set of objectives that form your ultimate goal of where you want to be. As you take positive action towards achieving that goal, you'll develop increased self-confidence and self-esteem in your abilities to follow through.
  • Assisting others to Feel Good About Themselves -  Helping other people feel better about themselves, will make you feel better about yourself. By giving others a genuine compliment you can truly appreciate a compliment when you receive one.
  • Clarifying Major Life Areas - Write down the major categories of your life such as:
    • Health,
    • Relationships,
      • School Environment
      • Work Environment
      • Family Environment
      • Social/Religious Environment
      • Political Environment
      • Sports Environment
    • Financial Stability,
    • Career Development
     Directions -
Rate each category on a scale of 1-10 in each area, with 1 having the highest priority and 10 having the lowest. Start with the highest priority category first.

Begin by clarifying the life area(s) requiring the most attention. Your self-esteem is the average of your self-concept in all the major areas of your life.  Each area will have related affects on other areas. The more you strengthen each area of your life, the more your overall self-esteem will increase,

     Everyone benefits from developing an introspective view of themselves. This allows a self examination of what external and internal inputs govern our lives. Start by understanding how you respond to:

  • Sources of Motivation - People require external, internal, or a combination of both in order to take proactive steps towards creating a better life for themselves and their families. Successful individuals have a source of inspiration who uplifts their spirits, can motivate us to make changes in their life.
  • Affirmations & Introspection  Affirmations need to be used correctly. When most people are in a slump, they tend to attempt to use positive affirmations to help them get out of their funk. Just saying “I am highly motivated and productive” does nothing unless accompanied by taking a first step towards doing some thing to change the behavior, no matter how small. 
     Stop Making Comparisons of yourself to other people. Low-self esteem starts with the feeling of being inferior. Don't worry about what anyone else is doing. Everyone needs to accept that they are better served by following their own path, at their own pace, rather than to compare yourself with anyone else. Recreate yourself by immediately starting over and begin by taking small steps forward.

Self-esteem comes from self-dominion. The more power you have in getting yourself
to take the right actions, the more self-esteem you will have. Your level of self-esteem
affects your happiness and everything you do.

Self Image
     How we view ourselves (self image) has a direct affect on everything we do. Individuals with high self-esteem generally:
  • Are congenial and interact easily with others,
  • Live life to the fullness because the enjoy everything they are involved in,
  • Seem to have unlimited energy,
  • Don't procrastinate. Always meet deadlines.
  • Stay true to their words and commitments.
     Also, their high level of self-esteem corresponds with their high level of productivity, capacity of happiness and state of well-being.

     Many people will offer common platitudes as the following advice to acquiring self-confidence:
  • Repeat out loud "I like myself" several times a day. There is scientific research that the subconscious mind does not convert beliefs into a accepted fact until solid proofs are provided. Your subconscious will respond to such unsupported beliefs with skepticism.

  • Acceptance of ones self: The subconscious mind will accept as fact something whose truthfulness that is inconvertible (can not logically be refuted).

  • Repeating affirmations: Recent research has proven that the subconscious mind considers as a deceptive any affirmation that doesn't match the currently held beliefs.

  • External suggestions on how to set goals and achieve them: Well meaning individuals will offer unsolicited advice without being aware that the individual has already made tremendous improvement yet still feel inferior compared to others

It is possible for someone to achieve all of their goals, yet the inferior feeling still exists.  This may occur because the goals that were established did not really reflect what would make the individual truly happy, so succeeding in reaching their goals is unable to provided the feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment.

Recommended Reading:

Self-Confidence  There are lots of ways to improve your self-confidence over the long-term. Here are 10 ways to quickly boost your self-confidence.

Unshakable Self-Confidence  Feeling low on self-confidence is a terrible feeling. Discover how to boost your self-confidence with these 7 street proven strategies.

Self-esteem - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia  Self-esteem is a term in psychology to reflect a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.




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