Is there a difference between
self-esteem and self-confidence?
Self-esteem is defined as positive
self-imaging that must be established proactively by each individual.
Self-esteem does not occur passively. Individuals who expect external
factors to produce an objective and realistic foundation for their
self-esteem will most likely be disappointed.
Self-confidence is an attitude individuals
hold about their positive
view of themselves and their situations. Self-confident
people place extraordinary trust their own abilities. They have a
general sense of being in control in
their lives, and believe that they will be able to do
what they expect to accomplish. Sometimes they reach a level of
being over confidence. Self-confident people must learn to establish
realistic expectations so that if some of their
expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept
When an individuals fails to take action and
perform something that requires their attention, they lose trust in
and abilities. The lose in faith in oneself can continue in a downward
spiral causing the failure to fulfill more commitments.
Performing even a small the task will help by
positive energy and momentum, which then makes other tasks easier to
accomplish. With the confident developed, an individual will be
able to accept more responsibility and expand their abilities as they
succeed with the new responsibilities.
Steps to increase self-esteem include:
- Starting Small -
Start with something that will be easy to do immediately. Small
successes build momentum to gain more confidence
in our abilities. Completed small tasks form the foundation for more
- Creating a Compelling Image of Yourself - Use
the power of your imagination is a very powerful tool in creating a
positive image of the confident and self-assured person you aspire to
become. Write a description of this person and all of the associated
attributes. Visualize yourself as this person
every evening before going to bed and again in the morning as you start
- Doing Something You Are Good At - The
repetition of doing
things that you are good at reinforces the belief in your abilities
- Visualizing and Implementing - self-esteem goals
requires skill-sets that gets
better with practice and repetition. The
more often we proactively do things that are uncomfortable, the less
situations will seem, and eventually become natural.
- Creating a Plan -
Establishing a goal is just the first part of the solution. Creating a
plan whose primary objective is to
fulfill the stated goal gives clarity for the individual to put into
action. A primary reason people don't achieve their stated goal is that
slack off because they don't have a
step by step plan to achieve their goals. They are not clear of what
the first step is and what should take place in an orderly succession
- Setting Goals - that are unambiguous and
actionable. It is vital to establish a clear set of objectives that
form your ultimate goal
of where you want to be. As you take positive action towards achieving
that goal, you'll develop increased self-confidence and self-esteem in
your abilities to follow
- Assisting others to Feel Good About Themselves - Helping
feel better about themselves, will make you
feel better about yourself. By giving others a genuine compliment you
can truly appreciate a compliment when you receive one.
- Clarifying Major Life Areas - Write down the
major categories of your life such as:
- School Environment
- Work Environment
- Family Environment
- Social/Religious Environment
- Political Environment
- Sports Environment
- Financial Stability,
- Career Development
Rate each category on a scale of
1-10 in each area, with 1 having the highest priority and 10 having the
lowest. Start with the highest priority category first.
Begin by clarifying the life
area(s) requiring the most attention. Your
self-esteem is the average of your self-concept in all the major areas
of your life. Each area will have related affects on other areas.
The more you strengthen each area of your life, the more your overall
self-esteem will increase,
Everyone benefits from developing an
introspective view of themselves. This allows a self examination of
what external and internal inputs govern our lives. Start by
understanding how you respond to:
- Sources of Motivation -
People require external, internal, or a combination of both in order to
take proactive steps
towards creating a better life for themselves and their families.
Successful individuals have a source of inspiration who uplifts their
spirits, can motivate us to make changes in their life.
Making Comparisons of yourself to other people. Low-self
esteem starts with the feeling of being inferior. Don't worry about
what anyone else
is doing. Everyone needs to accept that they are better served by
following their own
path, at their own pace, rather than to compare yourself with anyone
else. Recreate yourself by
immediately starting over and begin by taking small steps forward.
- Affirmations & Introspection Affirmations
need to be used correctly. When
most people are in a slump, they tend to attempt to use positive
affirmations to help them get out
of their funk. Just saying “I am highly motivated
and productive” does nothing unless accompanied by taking a first step
towards doing some thing to change the behavior, no matter how
self-dominion. The more power you have
to take the right actions, the more self-esteem you
will have. Your level of self-esteem
affects your happiness and
everything you do.
How we view ourselves (self image) has a
direct affect on
everything we do. Individuals
with high self-esteem generally:
Also, their high level of
self-esteem corresponds with their high level of productivity, capacity
of happiness and state of well-being.
- Are congenial and interact easily with others,
- Live life to the fullness because the enjoy everything they
are involved in,
- Seem to have unlimited energy,
- Don't procrastinate. Always meet deadlines.
- Stay true to their words and commitments.
Many people will offer common platitudes as
following advice to acquiring self-confidence:
Repeat out loud "I like myself" several times a day.
is scientific research that the subconscious mind does not convert
beliefs into a accepted fact until solid proofs are provided. Your
respond to such unsupported beliefs with skepticism.
Acceptance of ones self: The
subconscious mind will accept as fact something whose truthfulness
is inconvertible (can not logically be refuted).
Repeating affirmations: Recent research has proven
that the subconscious mind considers as a deceptive any affirmation
that doesn't match the currently held
External suggestions on how to set goals and achieve
Well meaning individuals will offer unsolicited advice without being
aware that the individual has already made tremendous improvement yet
still feel inferior compared to
It is possible for someone to
all of their goals, yet the inferior feeling still exists. This
because the goals that were established did not really reflect what
would make the individual truly happy, so succeeding in
reaching their goals is unable to provided the feeling of satisfaction
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- Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Self-esteem is a term in psychology to reflect a person's
overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.
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