San Diego Figure Skating Communications
Dealing With Rejection
There are Many Different Types of Rejection
Many people feel really bad when they are not selected for a job. However, the experience of a being rejected is not the end of the world. It is an opportunity to reflect on your qualifications and the requirements for the job. This becomes more complicated if fired from a job and performance reviews did not serve as a "red flag". Usually when down sizing occurs there are rumors of impending job down sizing. Sometime in romantic relationships they end without any warning while others there are observable signs of the impending ending. Even a death can feel like a rejection, especially if the cause is a terminal illness or suicide.
Different Types of Rejections Have Different Meaning
Rejection is an unavoidable part of our life and strikes fear into everyone at least once in their life. The way we deal with rejection tells an important story about how we deal with issues and our ability to uphold our self-respect and dignity. A natural reaction to rejection is to feel diminished, unloved, worthless, insecure and insignificant. When we are rejected, our dark side may want to innate a retaliatory strike to inflict a similar hurt.
Internalizing rejection can be very destructive, especially if it becomes inseparable from a person's belief system. Acquiring the knowledge on how to handle rejection can provide the tools to help us overcome the feelings of: worthless, lack of self-esteem, and destructive/unhealthy relationships in business, social, and marriages.
A major reason some people, when experiencing rejection, have a problem with their failure is that they do not know an acceptable way to deal with the rejection. Two different people can experience a similar outcome, yet one views the incidence as negative and feels bad, yet another person uses their experience in a positive way and is able to move on!
There are many causes for
There are corrective actions that can be taken to reduce the chances of
a future rejection from occurring.
Dealing with Rejection in a Relationship
Rejections hurt for a number of reasons:
Dealing with rejection in a nonromantic relationship
Men and women will often find it necessary to work together in small collaborative groups to accomplish a mutual goal. It is preferable that these individuals not develop a romantic relationship with others that they must associate with on a daily basis at school, job, or sport.
Sometimes there physical, skill, or interest related differences that develop over a period of time. This can cause a decision for a relationship to dissolve with mutual agreement so all parties retain their respect and remain friends. For example, often a young skating team that works well will experience growth differences in height and weight during puberty that makes it very difficult to continue the partnership. Sometimes the abilities of the two young athletes no longer match and it become obvious that dissolving the partnership is necessary to be successful in a highly competitive sports environment.
The first thing you must
do to deal
with a relationship
to make sure that your self esteem and your emotions do not create bad
feelings. You must learn to deal with problem before you can move on
and begin improving your self esteem.
with a job related
Every season coaches are
faced with making these decisions. Teachers make subjective and
objective decisions when they grade research projects and essays. They
use a grading protocol described as a "Bell Curve". Coaches of team
sports want to select the best athletes each season to improve the
prospects of success. Every competition is held for the purpose of
selecting the best performance. Placements should not be viewed as
being "rejected" by those athletes or teams not placing first or
winning a game.
Some individuals respond
extremes of either great joy or a deep depression depending if they win
or lose. Those on the loosing end of a competition feel emotional
rejected. This rejection can range from a rather normal temporary
emotional experience or be systematic of a prolonged condition
requiring a treatment of medication and professional counseling.
In the study of
rejection is a situation between two or more people deliberately
exclude an individual from their social/peer group relationship.
Rejection can take the form of either being:
For the recipient of
being rejected, the
experience can be subjective or it can be perceived by the recipient
even when feeling of being rejected has no basis in fact.
There are many reasons for being rejected:
At some level of human interaction, rejection is an inevitable part of life. A key ingredient of getting over being rejected is to develop an improved and positive image of yourself.
Dealing with Rejection Part 1: Handling Others' Rejecting ... July 20, 2011 ... How to respond when other people are rejecting or disinterested. By Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D.
How to deal with rejection in relationship It's no use hiding in your bed or behind a big bottle of wine. You're bound to feel a great deal of pain and it's good to embrace it. Rejection hurts but you need to face it to fix it and move on.
Rejection - How To Deal With It In 5 Fresh Ways April 5, 2010 Rejection plays an important and fundamental ingredient to success. Read how to deal with it in 5 easy steps.
Summation: Dealing with rejection is a core competency Feb. 5, 2011 ... The number one reason most people don't do interesting things is that they are afraid of rejection.
Coping With Rejection Tips For Coping With Rejection.
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