USFS Club Communications
San Diego Figure Skating Communications
The Ego and the Ability to Accept Criticism
It is the negative connotations of the word "Criticism" that immediately starts any conversation that is best avoided. Frame any assessment in a "non threatening" one-on-one environment, and never in a group of the individuals peers.
Be Aware of Individual Differences Between People
Some individuals seem to be better suited to receiving and reacting positively to criticism than other types of personalities.
Role Play the Individual who is the Recipient of the Assessment.
As the target of criticism, what strategies can you use to be more receptive of criticism? Would it help if the presenter pointed out the positive and negative considerations upon which they have based their conclusion(s)?
Do you believe that someone's expertise, educational degrees, and experience automatically gives them the right to expect that when they speak, their opinions/solutions not to be questioned?
Can criticism can be expressed from either a positive or negative point of view? Is the fact that the "Spin" used in communicating agrees with you make you more likely to have a positive or negative feeling? Is it possible to frame the comments and conclusions with a positive or negative feeling that may not be supported when looking closely at the supporting facts?
Self Destructive Behavior Response
Learning how to accept criticism requires hard work for many individuals, especially those who are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Part of the syndrome is being unable to tolerate critical comments, no matter how well intended. For this individual their body has an anaphylactic reaction. Before they can even start to work out the truth of what was said, why it was said, and what the ramifications of the criticism were. they have to regain physical control of their body.
This acutely negative response requires professional counseling, not self treatment. Fortunately, most individuals are not this sever. However, anyone can benefit by participating in workshops that use group discussions and sharing. It really is in your best interest to seek out a "mentor", who you trust. Choose someone who will have your best interests at heart and wants to see you grow emotionally and psychologically to achieve your personal goals and aspirations.
Assume you have lots of lemons that you can't even give away for free and converting them into lemonade which is sold for a profit on a hot summer day. Using this same concept, taking the inability to accept unsolicited, unwelcome comments/suggestions and actively seek input can be very productive and help achieve very positive results. Seeking out a trusted "confidante" or counselor to proactively receive objective comments to defect any unexpected comments, no matter how well meaning the person is offering the advice.
The Real You Should be Natural, not a Fake Facade
There are questions and free interview answers right from The Complete Interview Answer Guide by Don Georgevich. The guide is filled with many more questions and answers. Every question in the guide is first explained and shows multiple answers for each question. This guide is intended to help you make a more favorable impression in a job interview; however, it also can be used to provide some insight into the functionality of your personality so changes can be made to actually achieve a natural persona not a role that requires performing a role that the interviewer wants to hear.
Free Interview Q&A
Sample Questions include answers -
If an individual usually reacts defensively, then it will be difficult for them to accept any type of criticism that is offered as a constructive comment or deliberately meant to be negative and designed to upset and offend you.
Consider the source! Is the person a respected adult who has considerable experience that relates to the formulation of the comments/suggestions? Attempt to understand the reasoning for the statement(s) to see if they actually represent a personal attack or can the comments be widely applied to other members of your peer group.
Some situations are very complex and are extremely difficult to simplify without distorting or misrepresenting some "facts" in an attempt to prove a point. In overcoming the over simplification in any argument, it is necessary that you are fully aware of the pros and cons on the topic. Not every "expert' will have the same qualifications so you need to seek others who support or reject the stated or unstated hypothesis. You must become aware of any biases that you and others may have that affect their opinions and the reason that is behind their reasoning in support or rejecting the question/
Conducting the Critique
Knowing the basic principles of conducting a good critique will make it possible for judges to effectively analyze and discuss a figure skating program. Take good notes to refer to as you consider what to focus in on and will allow you to create an effective and thoughtful interaction with the coach and skater(s). Remember that a critique should not deal solely with negative, but constructive criticism. Judges need to be honest in offering their opinion which points out both positive and negative elements of the performance.
Sample questions to ask skaters:
Me: Susie, if you take one more step and face your target, your pass will be right on the money.
Susie hears: You’re a horrible volleyball player.
Betsy, you’re on the right track, just be sure to communicate with your
teammates so that they know what you’re going to do.
If either of those scenarios sound a little too familiar, take heart. According to an article in Psychology Today titled, A Chic Critique (April 2011), “people react strongly to criticism no matter how its delivered.” That being said, I’m sure none of us is out to squish our team's spirit like a proverbial bug. Let’s look at how we can critique without being critical.
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