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Being Courageous

What is Courage?
      What is the difference between brave/courageous and cowardly behavior?  How can someone demonstrate their courage or bravery?  What do these terms actually mean?

       It is naturally for individuals in our society to desire to feel superior in some way and to some extent to other people.  In most humans, there is a strong desire to want to improve the opportunities for our children.  Some parents may also have a deep desire for their child to achieve goals that they feel they could not accomplish.  Others may attempt to urge a child to enroll at a college or university they attended, follow in their footsteps as an athlete and/or take the steps towards a career like become a physician, attorney, etc..

Courage (also bravery, boldness, fearlessness, mettle, fortitude, or intrepidity) is the ability
to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation. "Physical courage" is courage in
the face of physical pain, hardship, death, or threat of death, while "moral courage" is the
ability to do the right thing in the face of popular opposition, shame, scandal, or discouragement. 

Source - Wikipedia

Cowardly behavior is when people behave in ways that short circuits logic, sanity, prudence, decorum, integrity, politeness, or the general peace and order of societyFear tends to fuel their behaviors and steer individuals in the direction of cowardly avoidance when times get tough. When people simply want to hide and avoid reality or things unpleasant. This type of destructive behavior is without forethought of how their actions will impact others!

It is cowardly to use email, text or voice messages to communicate information rather than in a face to face meeting, Your excuse is that you "want to avoid a confrontation with hurt feelings"!  This excuse is very disingenuous.

Examples of Cowardly Behavior
      Most people will attempt do their best to reach their goals, to improve their lives, and to rise to the occasions when others don't try to do better; However, there are individuals who will attempt to pull others down in an effort to remain above the fray. You can recognize the following behavior they may exhibit:

  • Gossiping is negative comments arising from the lack of courage to face their life problems. Those who participate in gossiping are attempt to put others down in order to feel good about themselves as they are not brave enough to face issues in their life.
  • Negative comments, criticism, and sarcasm are used in an efforts to make a person feel superior to others they are putting down. A strong individual attempts to feel good about him or herself by being supportive of others instead of criticizing others in an effort to put them down.
  • Prejudging: People prejudge others as this allows them to feel superior without expending any effort to validate their superiority. Judging others negatively is a strategy of a person who is not strong enough to face life's problems to feel good about him or herself.
  • Obsession with cleanliness is a tool some people use in an effort to devalue others who do not meet their  definition of "cleanliness". This is a desperate attempt to feel superior to others by putting others down.  This obsessive behavior should be viewed as a red flag that is symptomatic of very serious mental problems that should not be ignored or excused.
  Note: these types of behavior can be viewed as a form of bullying or harassment in an environment at school, workplace, or volunteering for various social, sports, religious,
hospital, civic, or political organizations.  Having a policy dealing with these behaviors
is highly recommended.  A method of reporting infractions should be published and how complaints will be processed in a timely manner.

Bravery can be defined as “the ability to stand up for what is right in difficult situations.” compared to categorize bravery as fearlessness or acting when an observer would be afraid. Bravery may be defined as the action of a individual whose behavior exemplifies the strength, fortitude, and ethical/moral convictions to step forward when it may not be the popular stance in his/her peer group. 

     The Virtues in Action (VIA) Institute considers bravery as a positive psychological trait that can be identified and cultivated in certain individuals that is displayed under certain circumstances.

     People who are not brave enough to face problems in their life will choose the easiest way to avoid being put down by their peers. By taking no action allows them to feel good about themselves without risking negative reactions from their peer group.

     While an individual may think they made an intelligent decision; however, in reality their subconscious mind understands the conflict with their ethical and moral fiber. This causes a respond of sending negative feelings to the conscious mind resulting in a depression that is not easy to ignore or self treat.

     If you want to live your life with high ethical and moral standards, then you must start displaying the strength to courageously confront problems instead of running away from them.

Recommended Reading:

A little bit of life: Being brave; acting courageously May 5, 2010 ... Being brave; acting courageously. There's a certain degree to which courage and bravery are synonymous; but they aren't entirely.

LearningLinks Online - Handling Challenging Situations with ...  In this course, leaders discover the fears and anxieties that prevent them from acting courageously and learn how to overcome them.

PDF The StraightTalk Coach  Leading Ethically — Acting Courageously. By Cathy A. Higgins 86 David Kreischer for anyone  responsible for a functional unit or an entire organization.

Six Practices to Help You Take Initiative and Demonstrate Courage  When acting courageously, it's a must if you are to impart your ideas clearly and in a manner that others will receive well.

Principle Five: Act Courageously
Acting courageously is tied in very closely to having a healthy Self Belief and being open enough in your heart to be able to hear and act on intuitive hunches.

Courageous Patience - Eternity Fitness  Courage comes from acting courageously on a day-to-day basis. Your personal development goal should be to practice the behaviors of a totally fearless individual who faces doubts, uncertainty, and criticism from others.

Fear - How to Overcome Fears and Gain Self-Confidence  The way to do this is to face your fears in your imagination first, by visualizing yourself acting courageously in the fearful situation and achieving great rewards based on your own, rational choices of action, instead of just reacting blindly in a fearful situation.


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