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Bad Attitudes & Self Doubts
Destructive AttitudesWhen a talented athlete has a terrible attitude, what can be done? By the time the bad attitude is expressed in public, parents have been experiencing the same attitude at home. By default, a coach may become the primary person whose responsibility it is to correct the skater's bad behavior/attitude.
In some rare cases the skater may be banned from club sessions and in the worst case scenario the skater is banned from entering the rink by the management of the facility.
Sometimes the parents may be the source of problem with the child reacting as an expression or normal adolescent rebellion that is an attempt to assert their independence. When the parents are a problem, the club and/or rink management often have to resort to banning them from the rink.
may encounter a skater with a bad
attitude on the ice during a practice session, in the locker room, at
off-ice practices, and unfortunately when at a
competition. Their problematic behavior can become a constant
aggravation that makes things difficult for
every athlete at your home rink.
Dealing with Problem Behavior
Resolving behavioral problems must be swiftly dealt with both when the skater is an individual or a member of a team. Unacceptable behavior can allow other individuals to assume that this behavior is tolerated and even encouraged by adult leaders.
Most successful coaches of elite skaters will not tolerate such behavior as the revenue does not compensate for the associated grief. A "bad apple" can be easily replaced with clients whose public and private behavior doesn't generate a "toxic attitude". That being said, amateur and professional sport associations are pressured to generate revenues from sponsors and TV networks that frequently want to overlook the "antics" of athletes who violate the rules because disciplinary action affects their balance sheet.
a coach accepts such a "Drama Queen",
they are advised to put a stop to unacceptable behavior by immediately
line in the sand and laying down the
ground rules when agreeing to accept such a challenging new
student. In professional sports a written contract is signed that
specifies what is acceptable and what actions will result in specific
terms - fines, suspension, and or termination. For profit
organizations usually have a clause the deals with public conduct that
puts the employer in a negative light. Drinking and taking drugs
may require a clause that requires passing unannounced drug testing.
takes a lot of energy to deal
with skaters that have poor attitudes, but they can be turned around
and they can provide a positive impact on athletes and the atmosphere
at practice sessions and competitions.
It is important to remember that driven or obsessive parents of young athletes can be a primary source of their child's poor behavior. Parents can be a problem as rink side spectators and as self appointed "agents" that agitate for preferential treatment of their son(s) or daughter(s), especially when it comes to being selected for a Synchronized Skating Team and/or playing time on a Hockey Team.
children can use their sports
performance as a bargaining chip with their parents. Especially if the
participation in the sport come largely from the parent reliving their
youthful athletic experience.
competition can be responsible for
introducing either a positive or negative factor that may be
encounter in training and competitive performances.
athletes become teenagers, there can be
disciplinary problems that disrupt the family dynamics. It would
be unusual if a dysfunctional family environment did not transfer to
the training atmosphere.
possible talk to a skater in private and never embarrass them in front
of their peers. Here are a few tools for dealing with individual
Here are a few tools for dealing with a problem athlete who is part of a dance or pair couple (team):
Here are a few tools for dealing with a problem athlete who skates as a member of a hockey team, high school figure skating team, Synchronized Team Skating, or Theater On Ice group:
Meetings should not be confrontational. Ask the parents and skater to list the problem(s) and how they propose to eliminate, mitigate, or correct the problem. Listening is very important as it give them a chance to vent and may open up opportunities to discuss the problem and possible solutions in a more productive environment/atmosphere.
Sometimes it is useful to practice your negotiating skills using the "Moot Court" approach with individuals playing the role of the parents and skater.
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