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The Teen Years can be Challenging Time for Parents
Many teenagers struggle with establishing their own identity after having lived their entire life in the shadow of their parents, church, school authority figures. All teenagers undergo major changes as they transition from childhood to taking their place in the adult world. This includes bright over and underachievers with and without behavioral, emotional, drug/alcohol, and major health problems that have manifested themselves to some degree. Some individuals attempt to compartmentalize their problems to school, at home, their church or within the community.
The teen years represent a period of intense physical growth combined with challenging social, ethical, moral, and intellectual precepts. The behavioral changes that are manifested vary in intensity from not outwardly observable to an effort to completely discard family norms. Understandable this can be a time of considerable confusion and resulting upheaval for many families.
Despite the negative perceptions adults hold about teen conflict between parent and child, the teen years are a necessary period in which teenagers shape the character of the distinctive independent individuals they will become. Learn to recognize and give them credit for being energetic, thoughtful, idealistic, and with a deep interest in developing their moral compass of what is right/wrong and fair/unfair.
There's a wide range of what's considered normal development. Ever teenager is different - some are early bloomers, late arrivals, speedy developers, and the those who are slow-but-steady.
As teenagers start to develop their own separate identity from Mom and Dad, as part their effort to become more independent, they are increasingly subject to peer pressure. This awareness of how other teens see them is added to the desperate need to fit in with a group. As peers influence becomes more important, compared with their parents making the decisions, there usually is an escalation of episodes of conflict with anyone in a position of authority, especially parents.
Teens often start "trying on" different looks and identities. The following links may be helpful to preempt or mitigate the problem by starting to develop lines of communicate during the years leading up to the child becoming a teenager.
PDF Adolescent Behavior Family and family relationships Adolescent behavior, primarily through monitoring behavior on the part of parents.
Troubled Teen Solutions Problems with teenagers? ...Adolescent behavior problems? Developing better parenting skills really can help.
Adolescent Behavior Problems - Psych Web A Parent's Guide to Surviving Adolescence Practical advice from KidsHealth.org; Adolescent Behavior Problems.
Brown University Child and Adolescent Behavior Letter Topics on behavioral research as well as clinical practice. Book titles and links to CRN website articles.
The following internet links have been gleaned from personal communications
combined with information from public institutions and athletic organizations/
associations that have a web presence with information concerning team and
individual sports programs:
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