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Accepting Criticism -
Fair and Objective Criticism
Not all comments designed to help a person will be framed as positive statements. Sometimes it is more to the point to describe and discuss why certain behavior should not occur, especially when the goal is to replace one behavior with a different behavior.
It is very important that all criticism be offered when the person receiving it is in a receptive mode. Negative comments should never be given when the person delivering the comments is upset, angry, or distracted. The body language and choices of emotionally charges words used to deliver the message can cause communications to be perceived as personal attacks.
When there are emotional bonds between the individuals, saying "I am sorry" may not erase the hurt feelings, This is especially true if the comments occured in front of group of your peers. Adult communications to a child already have an undisputed issue of power and control as a subtext that is understood, but unstated domance and submissiveness.
Teenagers rarely are receptive towards negative comments. They may appear to listen, and even may be polite, but will not act on the "suggestions" that are taken to be "Orders" or an "Ultimatum" from an adult. The same comments in a peer to peer may invoke a response of "Who made you the Boss!" in a light hearted way that can defuse the situation.
Things to Remember -
The goals of coaches in sports at all levels (Pop Warner Football, Jr. and varsity High School and College) should be to bring out the best in every athlete. This can be accomplished by identifying their needs and developing a training plan that can be implemented within existing financial and practice constrains.
Whatever the context, coaching involves developing the participants' physical and psychological fitness and providing the best possible practice conditions to maximize their chances of performing up to the best of their ability.
It is not the comments so much as the manner and tone in which the coach makes the statements. Some comments can be made in from of team mates and other should be reserved for a private one on one situation because of the personal nature.
Comments about being tardy, talking when individual should be paying attention, or an attitude displaying no enthusiasm would seem to be appropriate for a public comment if the behavior is in character of the athlete.
If the behavior is totally out of character, wait for a private moment to discuss your concerns. There may be serious family, school, or work relationships. Of course it may be the typical teenage boy/girl problems, common sibling interactions, or the typical conflicts that associated with one or both parents.
Our Reaction or Response
Everyone appreciates the positive things that are said to us and about us. However, when we perceive comments as negative criticism, we react differently and usually very strongly. A typical response to a negative comment can run the gamete from being defensive, taking the offensive, or of complete indifference.
Negative comments can be constructive if it allows enough time for us as a coach or athlete to correct a major problem before the final competition of the season. The same comments a day before the competition doesn't allow enough time to make major corrections. The end result may be to fire up the athlete or totally destroy their self image.
Trained critics are actually your benefactors by analyzing and evaluating an individual or team performance. They generally see you infrequently and thus changes are more readily apparent. If you trust and respect their knowledge, they can be an important source that helps an athlete to improve even slight faults that can make a difference in placements in competitions. No matter how great we believe something to be, there can easily be a series of problems that a coach or athlete can overlook or ignore because of over familiarity. By confronting and dealing with the criticism it is possible to solve the problem and increase the possibility of achieving success.
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